Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him - Psalm 127:3 NLT
Many of you may know that from reading my previous blog posts, I have 2 sons. What you may not know is that I have a daughter from a previous marriage. She is a college graduate that lives in another state. Because of the divorce and the fact that she moved away with her mother to another state within a few years after the divorce, I was unable to see her grow up. I was not there to comfort her when she skinned her knee. I was not there to see her go to the prom, I was not there to help teach her how to drive. I share part of the blame for being absent from some of these important events in her life. I will never be able to get that time back. I had a great conversation with her in which she shared a number of things that are currently going on in her life. After hanging up the phone, I realized that even though I was not there for some of the important events that took place earlier in her life, I can be there now. It's amazing that even though distance and years may have separated us, I still see some of me in her. She has that same restless spirit that I possess. When she tells me about her dreams and aspirations, I can only smile because I have been there. I know exactly how she is feeling because I felt the same way. God is giving me another chance to enjoy the gift that he gave me in the way of children. It's amazing how God will use the most innocent of ways to bring people together for a way to have a positive impact and bring glory to Him. My daughter realized from a Twitter notification that I was associated with this resource and she was amazed by it. The reason for this was because I had talked about doing something along these lines for quite some time, and with God's grace, have begun to embark on this journey. Starting this resource has had a profound impact on her and given her the motivation to seek avenues to realize her dream. As you can see in the image above, I have 3 gifts displayed. Each of my children are a gift and a reward from God and they are to be treated as such.
Men, do you, like me, have relationships with your child/ children that need to be repaired? If so, it's not too late to start the process. It can began with a letter, phone call, text, Snapchat or Instagram (how's that for using social media tools for a guy from another generation!). Whatever it takes to start a meaningful dialogue, you need to do it. As I stated, it's a process. You will not be able to retrieve all of the years back overnight. Please don't make that mistake. However, you can start building the foundation for a new relationship today. The key is to not to be weighed down by the mistakes that you may have made in the past and commit to moving forward. As it is stated in Lamentation 3: 23, "Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning." That should form the basis of the start of your new relationship. The benefits in resolving to repair a fractured relationship far outweigh the fear of failure. I can personally attest to this. It will take some work, but I am willing and able to began to enjoy the benefits of the gifts that God has provided me.
ACTION PLAN: Identify a relationship (preferably with your children) that you need to work on. Resolve to begin the process to start the healing. It can begin innocently enough with an apology or forgiveness if that's the case.
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Ken Sadler is a leader of Men's Ministry at a megachurch and has a heart and passion for helping men become the best they can be.