By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures - Proverbs 24:3-4 NIV
I remember the pride that I saw on my parents face when they told my sister and I that we were no longer renting and we were moving into a place to call our own. The day that we moved into our place was a monumental moment in our family and a source of pride. I was determined to experience that feeling for my family as well. Homeownership still remains an important part of a family's financial goals. A 2015 study done by Merrill Lynch revealed that 84% of the American population felt that owning a home is important and makes good financial sense.
In 2004, Abbey and purchased our first home together in Aurora, Illinois and we experienced the same pride that my parents had displayed decades earlier. We enjoyed entertaining friends and family there until we moved to Kentucky (the drama that was a part of that move will have to be covered in a separate blog post) to take advantage of a new opportunity. We rented our home in Illinois and settled in to our new life in Kentucky. We decided to rent a home until we established ourselves. As I noted in a previous blog post, I was fired from my job that I had relocated to Kentucky for. Since we had renters in our Illinois home, we were basically stuck. As I was trying to find another job to replace the one that I had lost, we were hit with another dose of bad news: our renters skipped out on us and damaged our home in the process! Ultimately we ended up losing our home to foreclosure because we could no longer afford it. It was a source of embarrassment for me as a man. I was supposed to be the one that led his family in a smart and prudent fashion and I was the primary reason that we lost our home. I ignored the advice that my wife tried to give me and went down the path that I thought was best. Unfortunately that wasn't the case and my family paid the price for my foolishness.
The lessons that I learned from losing our home in Illinois have stayed with me over the years. We were able to purchase another home by putting into practice a framework where Abbey and I communicate with each other on all major decisions (and minor ones as well). In addition, we realize that a home is a blessing from God and we use it as a gathering place for family and friends. We make a conscious effort to make this a place where people are welcome and feel the presence of God. As the scripture above states, it takes wisdom and understanding to properly build, establish and furnish a house. This principle forms that foundation of both our spiritual and physical home. I thank God for the experience that I went through in regard to losing the home, for that temporary loss taught me far more than I could have ever learned by keeping it. Remember, God Wastes Nothing'.
Ken Sadler is a leader of Men's Ministry at a megachurch and has a heart and passion for helping men become the best they can be.