You can't keep your true self hidden forever; before long you'll be exposed. You can't hide behind a religious mask forever; sooner or later the mask will slip and your true face will be known - Luke 12:2 MSG
My wife has a mirror like the one above in our master bathroom. One day, after I shaved, I decided to take a look at my reflection in it. The first magnification level was normal. I then noticed that there was a mirror on the other side. I flipped it over and look at my reflection and jumped back. The reason for my alarm was that this side of the mirror had increased magnification and revealed all of my imperfections. I saw where I had missed some spots while shaving in addition to noticing pimples, gray hairs and other blemishes. I immediately decided to flip the mirror back to the normal magnification and felt more comfortable with the image that stared back at me.
Men, how often has this happened in our life? What happens when we decide to take a chance and honestly examine the way that we are living and don't like what we see? Do we decide to flip to the normal magnification side of the mirror because we are more comfortable with that image? Is this the image that we take to work, the image that our spouses and significant others see? Is this the image that we present to our children? If so, this is what I call the "normal magnification" side of men. I have been guilty of this and will still engage in this behavior from time to time. I'm not immune to it either. It takes a special person to go to the "other side" of the mirror. This person has been through the fire and is secure in who they are. They go to the other side of the mirror and embrace the image that's reflecting back at them because they realize that they are saved by grace. This person can look at themselves on the other side of the mirror and will, as the apostle Paul stated in 2 Corinthians 12:9, "boast more gladly about my weaknesses, so Christ's power may rest upon me." Once you make a commitment to go to the other side of the mirror, your life changes. Your authentic true self emerges and everyone around you benefits because you are now operating the way God designed you.
As the scripture above states, you can't hide your true self forever. The face that we present to others can only fool people for so long before the truth comes to light. Jesus was using this scripture to teach the disciples not to be like the Pharisees and be contaminated by their ways of hypocrisy. This should serve as a warning to me and you to live out our lives the way God designed us and accept that person on the other side of the mirror.
ACTION PLAN: Commit to loving that person on the other side of the mirror and recognizing that's your true self. The start of this process requires brutal honesty on your part about coming to grips with who you are and accepting God's gift of grace and sharing it with others.
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Ken Sadler is a leader of Men's Ministry at a megachurch and has a heart and passion for helping men become the best they can be.