A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother- Proverbs 18:24 KJV
Today is the first day of school for my 2 sons. As I sent them out of the door to catch the school bus, a number of thoughts came to mind. One of the first was the fact that they are getting older and the time is definitely flying by. The second involved Trey, my oldest who is now going to high school. I think back to how it was for me in high school and the pressures that came along with it; namely trying to fit in and be accepted by your peers. I use to equate acceptance by peers in terms of numbers. I felt that the more friends you have, the greater your level of acceptance. I know that Trey sometimes feels that way. As I've grown older, I've learned that's not the case. I know that there will be a relatively small amount of people that you gravitate toward and be able to share life with on a deeper level. These are the people that I call my "front screen" guys. On my IPhone I have people that I have identified as my favorites in my contacts and their name and number appear on my front screen whenever I access my phone list. Of course I have my wife and kids on the front screen along with my sister. But I also have a cousin that's like a brother, a college friend that I talk to at least once a week, a few guys from my church and a few from my kids track club. These favorites are people that I can discuss issues that range from financial, to relational and health. We are able to have confidential, meaningful discussions in an environment where neither of us will put on a façade. These relationships a vital to my overall well being. As I have stated before, we are not meant to travel this journey alone.
Proverbs addresses the importance of having friends that will be with you through thick and thin. Indiscriminately chosen friends can bring you trouble, but those of like mind that share a reverence for God are more valuable than silver and gold. Proverbs goes on to say that "there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother". We all know who that is. Christ is always there even if we cannot access the guys in our favorites and should always be your first source when you need to have a discussion. I hope and pray every one reading this has that earthly circle of friends that they can go to have meaningful discussions when they are faced with the trials and tribulations that this life can bring.
ACTION PLAN: CONTACT THOSE GUYS THAT ARE ON YOUR FRONT SCREEN AND THANK THEM FOR BEING A PART OF YOUR LIFE AND LET THEM KNOW HOW MUCH YOU APPRECIATE THEIR FRIENDSHIP.
Ken Sadler is a leader of Men's Ministry at a megachurch and has a heart and passion for helping men become the best they can be.