Unless the LORD builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain - Psalm 127:1 ESV
When it came time for Abbey and I to purchase a home, we had a number of decisions to make in regard to it. Some of the questions involved where did we want to live and what schools did we want our sons to attend? The biggest decision was related to whether or not we wanted to build our home or purchase a pre existing home. We ultimately decided the best course of action for us was to purchase an existing home. Fortunately for us we were able to buy a home from a friend that was a win-win situation for the both of us and a blessing. The main reason that we decided to buy an existing home as opposed to building a new one was due to the fact that we didn't want to deal with the headaches and time involved with new construction.
For those of us in a relationship or considering entering one, how many of us possess the same mindset that Abbey and I when we were considering to build a new home? Like us, how many of you reading don't want to spend the necessary time needed to build a proper foundation to ensure a successful relationship with our significant other because of the difficulty involved? We find it easier to leave as opposed to cultivating and nurturing the relationship. If we do decide to build, oftentimes we won't want use the best materials needed to build a custom home (which will last), instead choosing to use materials that are inexpensive.
Solomon spoke of the importance of having the best materials in building a home. The best materials start with the Lord at the center. As the scripture states, unless the Lord builds the home, which means having our Savior at the center, our efforts to build a lasting relationship will be in vain. Furthermore, if we do build our home/relationship without God at the center, our efforts to watch over it will be in vain. The meaning of this is that without dependence on our God, the relationship and the efforts in maintaining it will be susceptible to attack by Satan. With that in mind, if you are going to have a successful and enduring relationship, there are 2 things that you must do: 1) you must be constantly on guard with full armor of God (see Ephesians 6:11-17), and 2) Realize that God is the source of everything and be dependent on Him to supply the materials (health, strength, and wisdom) needed to build the relationship house.
Abbey and I just finished participating in the Art Of Marriage weekend at our church. We were also blessed enough to be one of the couples that hosted it as well. The great thing about this conference is that it was for married couples in addition to those that were in a relationship and considering marriage as well. During the next several days, we will share some of the things that were learned here on this blog as a part of the Relationship series. I hope that you will stick around for it.
Ken Sadler is a leader of Men's Ministry at a megachurch and has a heart and passion for helping men become the best they can be.