Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ - Ephesians 5:21 NIV
Saturday morning at 9 was must see television for me growing up. During this time slot, Mid Atlantic Championship Wrestling was on and I made sure that my breakfast was finished so that I would have one hour of uninterrupted time to watch my favorite stars. From Chief Wahoo McDaniel, Jimmy Snuka, Tony Atlas, Blackjack Mulligan to Ric Flair, I watched them all. Each of these stars all had a signature move that was designed to win their match. Their purpose when they went to their signature move was to make the other wrestler submit. Once that happened, they were able to win the match. As a result of watching wrestling on Saturday morning, I started to view the word "submission" with total disdain and equated it with weakness.
I have a strong suspicion that I am not the only one that felt at one time that submitting was a sign of weakness and something that needed to be avoided at all costs. To men, any sign of weakness will make us appear vulnerable and we as men feel the pressure to project the image of strength and virility at all times. There is no room for any appearance for weakness for us men because someone, whether it's your wife or another rival, will take advantage.
Is this stance that many of us adopt in regard to submission a wise one? Does it foster a harmonious relationship with our wife, or more importantly, our God? Deep down, I think that we all know that the answer to this question is an emphatic no! Submitting is a sign of strength and the start of building a strong foundation with our God and our partners. As brother Eric so eloquently stated in the comment section on yesterday's post, total submission to God is the first step of action needed to effectively travel down the path of husband and wife being able to submit to each other. The scripture above instructs us to let love rule and let no man be fixated on his own opinion and will. Letting go of our pride and ego is a great start in being able to exhibit the principle of submission on a consistent basis. When husband and wife are able to let go of these destructive behaviors, the result is nothing short of amazing. Both parties are able to fulfill their duties to Christ and model the behavior that can set an example that will have an impact for generations to come. Gentlemen, let's start leaving a legacy for future generations by modeling the type of behavior that our Lord and Savior displayed during His time here on earth. He was the Son of God and was submissive. If Christ was able to do it, why not us?
Ken Sadler is a leader of Men's Ministry at a megachurch and has a heart and passion for helping men become the best they can be.